A couple weeks ago, I mentioned that we visited friends that live a couple of hours away.  My friend’s hubby took a promotion close to Chicago over a year ago, which meant that the fellow mommy I relate to the most moved far, far away.  Only it’s not that far.  It felt like it, and it still does, but now that we’ve made the trip there and back, I know how manageable it was and that we will do it again soon(er than later). 

There were yummy breakfasts.

And G’s soccer game.

Which meant sharing of snacks with M.

And there was a superbaby.

There was a mini photo shoot.

And time for some snuggles.

There was a trip to the candy factory.

For “kids in a candy store,” they don’t seem very excited.

Us grownups were.  Four words:  Chocolate covered gummy bears.

Then, it was time to trust a stranger with my babies and hit the town.

Getting out of the house (baby-free) was liberating.  A breath of fresh air for both of us.

The weather was lovely; the town square colorful and vibrant.

We enjoyed dinner at a local upscale Mexican restaurant.

I just adore fresh flowers on the table.
(I indulged in the Mango Mint).
(oh, and the taco plate).

After dinner and drinks, we were ready to get back to our babies.  The next morning, it was time to say goodbye.

It’s not goodbye, precious friends, but see you again soon.

Cheers to a much needed and fabulous weekend away,

fall fun (and stuff)

This past weekend, my mom and 9 year old niece visited.  And Dexter tried baby oatmeal for the first time.  I know you’re supposed to give them rice cereal first, but Theo thought it was gross so we skipped it altogether for Dex.  We went to the apple orchard (and took no pictures of anything apple related).  Here’s the photoblog!

first bite.
i’m not so sure about this, mom.
everyone wanted a turn feeding the baby. look at him grinning at dada.
tastes pretty good, guys.
action shot! he grabbed the spoon as my niece was attempting to feed him.  we all had a good laugh.
such a big boy these days.
and strong!
he liked climbing on the hay
and checking out the chickens.
a rare photo of me and my boo.
pretty girl! and such a big helper.
lesson 1: don’t give your kid an $8 sippy cup.
lesson 2: don’t give your kid an $8 sippy cup on a bridge.
the retrieval.
grammy, R, and Theo
time to say goodbye.  the weekend ended too soon.
happy weekend,

42 things that change when you have a baby

I’m sharing this from a babycenter article.  The ones that hit home for me are in bold.  There’s just no way to explain how true these notions are until you have been there and done it yourself.  Becoming a parent is like no other experience I’ve had.


Forty-two things that change when you have a baby. 

1. You finally stop to smell the roses, because your baby is in your arms.

2. Where you once believed you were fearless, you now find yourself afraid. [See a reader’s perspective in #22, below.]

3. The sacrifices you thought you made to have a child no longer seem like sacrifices.

4. You respect your body … finally.

5. You respect your parents and love them in a new way.

6. You find that your baby’s pain feels much worse than your own.

7. You believe once again in the things you believed in as a child.

8. You lose touch with the people in your life whom you should have banished years ago.

9. Your heart breaks much more easily.

10. You think of someone else 234,836,178,976 times a day.

11. Every day is a surprise.

12. Bodily functions are no longer repulsive. In fact, they please you. (Hooray for poop!)

13. You look at your baby in the mirror instead of yourself.

14. You become a morning person.

15. Your love becomes limitless, a superhuman power.


1. “You discover how much there is to say about one tooth.” — Ashley’s mom

2. “You finally realize that true joy doesn’t come from material wealth.” — Anonymous

3. “You now know where the sun comes from.” — Charlotte

4. “You’d rather buy a plastic tricycle than those shoes that you’ve been dying to have.” — Sophie’s mom

5. “You realize that although sticky, lollipops have magical powers.” — Roxanne

6. “You don’t mind going to bed at 9 p.m. on Friday night.” — Kellye

7. “Silence? What’s that?” — Anonymous

8. “You realize that the 15 pounds you can’t seem to get rid of are totally worth having.” — Brenda

9. “You discover an inner strength you never thought you had.” — Ronin and Brookie’s mom

10. “You no longer rely on a clock — your baby now sets your schedule.” — Thomas’ mom

11. “You give parents with a screaming child an ‘I-know-the-feeling’ look instead of a ‘Can’t-they-shut-him-up?’ one.” — Jaidyn’s mom

12. “Your dog — who used to be your ‘baby’ — becomes just a dog.” — Kara
[Many readers begged to differ, saying things like, ” I disagree with number 12. My dogs are my additional children,” “Nothing about previous babies, whether two- or four-legged, changes when a new miracle comes along,” “My dog will never be ‘just a dog,” and “This is sad to me. My dog is still my baby too.”]
13. “You take the time for one more hug and kiss even if it means you’ll be late.” — Tracey

14. “You learn that taking a shower is a luxury.” — Jayden’s mom

15. “You realize that you can love a complete stranger.” — Dezarae’s mom

16. You find yourself wanting to make this world a better place. — Arizona

17. If you didn’t believe in love at first sight before, now you do! — Ciara

18. You start to appreciate Sesame Street for its intellectual contribution. — Anon.

19. You have to quit watching the news because you see every story from a mother’s perspective and it breaks your heart. — Brooke&Boys

20. You just plain love life more – everything comes together and becomes better because of one tiny person and your love for them. — Anon.

21. You finally find out the real reason you have those breasts. — Anon.

22. In response to #2 [above], I’d say that where you were once afraid, you’re now fearless. I was always very timid and shy and let myself get walked all over … but now where my kid’s concerned, I’ll speak my mind and really connect with my inner “b”! — gummismom

23. The support you get from other people surprises you, because the people giving it are not always the ones you’d expect. — japanese_macaque

24. Nothing is just yours any longer. You share EVERYTHING! — DylanLsMom

25. No matter what you’ve accomplished in life, you look at your child and think, “I’ve done a GREAT job!” — Anon.

26. You want to take better care of yourself for your child. — Treasor

27. You can have the most wonderful conversation using only vowel sounds like “ahhh” and “oooo.” — littlehulk2008


These are all pretty sunshiney.  I would add one that is not so positive.

28. The relationship with your spouse/baby daddy/baby mama, etc becomes a lot more work because you forget, amidst the chaos, that it IS a basic need.  For you, for the other person in the relationship, and especially for the child(ren).  You must somehow figure out a way to keep the relationship a priority.

What unexpected changes did you discover when you became a parent? 

Or which of these struck you as particularly relevant?